During morning coffee, somehow the theme of “entitlement” was brought up. It was a deep subject to discuss on Friday morning… Nevertheless, our X-Panda group always breed interesting idea/subject/topic of conversation without any hesitation nor fear, that is why I enjoy spending time with them in the first place.
A sense of entitlement is defined as an enduring personality trait, characterized by the belief that one deserves preferences and resources that others do not.” At its best, entitlement can be viewed as confidence and self-assurance, and at its worst, the trait can be perceived as narcissism (me..me and my world).
More often than not, a sense of entitlement manifests in a few common forms; these include the inability to compromise with others, impractical demands, an attitude of supremacy, habitual anger toward people, and self-pity.
One of the X-Panda members (let’s call him Panda 1, since he is the oldest among the four of us anyway) recently got promoted as the manager for one group. Happy and supportive the rest of X-panda are, the position came with its privilege and its burden. His team consists of interesting character; intelligent, smart, needy, immature, selfish, competitive, rude individual. Panda 1 with his sincere and noble way of thinking has quite a struggle to make each of his team members work collaboratively with each other or another group, the problem of people and its drama becoming his everyday thing. To add the severity of this drama, those issues add extra burden on his shoulder, he started adding more gray hair and losing some weight. It is quite discouraging to witness it from afar.
It is universally acknowledged that “we’ human beings and part of society want certain treatment and favor based on our category. The category could be the social status, the economic status, the intellectual status, the hierarchy status, or even based on the title, and the list go on….We tend to get upset if we did not get the favor and treatment that we expected. “Omo… what a spoiled being we are“. I, myself are not exempt (to some small degree) from some of the mentioned above.
We have an expectation, and it is not wrong to have an expectation at its best. But when this expectation becoming un-realistic, un-merited or inappropriate that is when we have a problem. And more often than not we do not know when we cross that bridge of un-realistic, and inappropriate. This negative side effect of this sense of entitlement case could hurt others and in the end, could make the relationship collapse and nothing achieved.
Life is hard- I get it, life is not fair…..thats is the fact, so how can we live this life correctly and mindfully?
The saying, if you can be anything- choose to be kind, and by being kind you always going to be right.
I will go with that saying . This is a complex topic to discuss, and I am not pretending I understood fully, so as I continue this extraordinary life, I will continue to investigate this topic and report.
With warm regards,
Bombon
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